Personal Growth

Personal Growth, Yoga

Why in the world would I slow down if it’s going to HURT?

We are generally very busy. Lots of reasons why. Some we can do something about, some we can’t.

Do some of us NOT SLOW DOWN because in the quiet spaces, we hurt? Thoughts come up that SUCK. They are painful, stressful, frustrating to us.

We have money issues. We have problems with our kids that we might be ignoring. We carry around hurts from past relationships, packed away in a box in the basement (or is it?). Maybe there is a big fat elephant sitting on the marriage nobody wants to talk about it.

Being really BUSY helps to not hear and feel those thoughts. Or we …

Watch too much TV, those countless episodes of Walking Dead
EAT DRINK SMOKE
Exercise too much

You turn the TV off, you HEAR (or FEEL) the silence … then a thought comes up.  Maybe the fretting starts, the teeth grinding, the tears?  You go walk the dog and end up crying.

It’s so STINKING uncomfortable, painful and down right UNPLEASANT.

So why do it?

To feel the pain. To heal the heart.
To learn the lesson. To move on. To be refined by the fire.

Strength and courage. We all have it. Either within ourselves or a phone call away. Learning to be just fine even when we aren’t, that’s a big lesson. It’s worth it though.

STRENGTH & PEACE
To learn to FLY
To soar higher
Diet, Eating, Education, Personal Growth

Yin Yang – the balance of life Part1

yin-yangThe principle of Yin and Yang is a fundamental concept in Chinese philosophy and culture in general dating from the third century BCE or even earlier. This principle is that all things exist as inseparable and contradictory opposites, for example female-male, dark-light and old-young. The two opposites attract and complement each other and, as their symbol illustrates, each side has at its core an element of the other (represented by the small dots). Neither pole is superior to the other and, as an increase in one brings a corresponding decrease in the other, a correct balance between the two poles must be reached in order to achieve harmony.

Yin is feminine, black, dark, north, water (transformation), passive, moon (weakness), earth, cold, old, even numbers, valleys, poor, soft, and provides spirit to all things. Yin reaches it’s height of influence with the winter solstice. Yin may also be represented by the tiger and the color orange.

Yang is masculine, white, light, south, fire (creativity), active, sun (strength), heaven, warm, young, odd numbers, mountains, rich, hard, and provides form to all things. Yang reaches it’s height of influence with the summer solstice. Yang may also be represented by the dragon and the color blue.

Yin and yang describe how we can be connected to our universe. For example, the experience of climbing a mountain in the sun could be described as yang compared to the feelings we experience while lying in the shade.

We can use yin and yang to describe our relationships with anything, including food, exercise, chi and the weather. Where it becomes interesting is that we can also describe our current state in terms of yin and yang. So I could say, “I feel really yin today.” If I was not happy in that state, I could simply connect more deeply with those things I have identified with as helping me feel more yang, and change my current condition to being less yin.

Ultimately, yin and yang are a wonderful way to generate greater self- awareness and make interesting connections between our own conditions and all our possible interactions with the world we live in. Yin and yang allow us to connect ourselves to everything around us so that we can quickly decide what we need to do to bring ourselves back to a more balanced state when feeling any discomfort.

A very primitive use of the Chinese characters for yin and yang is claimed to date back to the fourteenth century BC. It is thought that initially the character for yin described the night and yang the day. It seems that Chinese philosophers recognized that humans where influenced by three powerful cycles, those of the day, moon and year. It also is apparent that our response to these cycles has certain similarities. So we might notice similarities with the night, new moon and winter whilst sensing a similar response to the day, full moon and summer. Yin then represents the night, new moon, winter part of the cycle and yang the day, full moon and summer.

Yin and yang can be interpreted in different ways. For much of its history yin would describe the way we feel during the night and in winter compared to the yang feelings we might experience in the summer and during the day. In Chinese medicine, the word “cooling” is associated with yin and “warming” with yang. So a food that feels warming would be more yang than a food that feels cooling.

The basic idea is using two words to describe the effect of outside influences on us, and to cultivate the awareness of how we can help change our health through a change of those influences. Yin and yang is used in feng shui,macrobioticsChinese astrology, the I Ching, traditional Chinese medicine, acupuncture, Chinese herbal medicine, shiatsu, tai chi, qi gong, and Chinese philosophy.

One traditional Chinese interpretation is that yang is experienced on the sunny side of the mountain and yin on the shady side. Other ways we can experience natural environmental yin and yang is to see how we feel during a hot, dry, day in the summer, when there is a greater presence of yang energy compared to a cold, damp, frosty night in the winter. We could also compare the way we feel during the full moon to the new moon. During the full moon some of us become slightly more yang, and this corresponds with a three to five percent increase in car accidents, crime, and admissions to emergency rooms.

Using this definition of yin and yang, I would feel more energetic, expressive, outgoing, social, alert, warm, active, and motivated when I sense I am more yang. When I describe myself as more yin, I feel more withdrawn, introspective, meditative, cool, relaxed, calm, peaceful, objective, clear-minded, and insightful. I would suggest you make your own list of what feels like yin or yang to you, drawing on your experience of night and day, winter and summer, and shade and sun.

We are always more yin or yang and most of the time, and this is healthy; however, sometimes we may find we experience problems from being too yin or yang. Once we have identified whether we are too yang or yin, we can simply expose ourselves to more of the opposite energy and reduce the influences we have too much of. For example, if I felt too hot and active and this was contributing to a headache, as though the sun and heat was too strong for me, I could eat all the foods I know cool me down. For me, this would be raw cucumber, grated daikon, fresh fruits, lemon water, apple cider vinegar, plain yogurt, and salads. As a result, I would feel more yin; in the past, this has resulted in my headache receding.

Next blog … practical ways to compliment yin or yang.

Athlete, Biking, Diet, Personal Growth, Prevention, Running, Swimming, Triathlon

6 Simple Exercises for a Strong Core

One way to develop an eye-catching mid-section, strengthen your core and back regions is to incorporate abdominal exercises that work all areas. These exercises develop your core and tighten the tummy, which is designed as a stand-alone workout or add to your circuit training workouts. I also love to do these exercises as part of my 3 and 11-day detox programs alternating with yoga or gentle walk in order to flush out the toxins and keep me moving.

jack-knifeThe first exercise is what I refer to as the Jack Knife sit-up. Lay on your back. Hands and feet meet in the center. Slowly extend arms and legs away from center of body. Don’t touch floor with arms or feet. Hold and bring back to center. Do these for 1 minute. Try to do 25-30 reps. If you are a beginner, bend the knees and bring them up to midline and back down.

 
 

core-abdominal-and-lower-back-exercises-1Leg extension with a workout bar is to use a bar and hold the bar in front of you and just lower the legs while keeping the hands and workout bar in place overhead at waist level. Drop legs 6” from floor, hold then bring back up to the bar. If you don’t have a bar, place hands under lower back and lower legs to floor, approximately 6” from the floor and back up to mid-line. Do each exercise for 1 minute/rest for 1 minute.

core-abdominal-and-lower-back-exercises-2Now take the same bar and alternate it from side to side in order to work the oblique.

If you are a beginner, stop when you need to rest and then continue to complete as many reps as you can in 1 minute.

 

 

 

bike12Another great abdominal exercise you can do if you don’t have a bar is to simply do the Classic Scissor Crunch. Lay on floor, hands on head not behind head, so you can avoid pulling the neck and alternate legs to elbow. Right elbow to left knee and reverse, count that as 1 rep. What I refer to as a double count. Do for 1 minute. 25-30 reps.

plank1The next exercise is great for your whole core, The Classic Plank. When done with the scissor crunch, flip over on your mat, place hands under shoulders, lift lower body in straight line, flat back and hold for 1 minute.

situpsThe last one is the Classic Crunch. Lay down on your mat, knees bent, hands on head so you don’t pull the neck, lift ½ way and back down, repeat. Complete as many as you can in 1 minute.

Complete all exercises, each one for 1 minute/1 minute rest between exercises. When you are done with all exercises, you will have completed one (1) circuit. Rest after each circuit for 2-4 minutes. Repeat circuit 2 more times up to 5. Complete 2-3 times a week and you on your way to an eye-catching mid-section, while strengthening your core and lower back region.

Athlete, Biking, Personal Growth, Running, Swimming, Triathlon

Is there “healthy triathlon competition” in “healthy marriage”? A little race report.

It’s official.  He is faster than me! At least at the mini sprint in a pool.

I’ve been doing triathlon for two years. My husband started a couple of months ago.

I thought I had more time to be faster than him.  NOPE.

I guess the lesson is some of us are FAST. And some of us are NOT.

Another lesson? I might be a bit too competitive. Because here are my thoughts …

As you can see on the times, the only place I’m faster is in transition.  So NO.  I’m not going to purchase tri shorts so he’s faster.  I’m not going to purchase him yanks, so he’s faster.  I’m not going to race in the same swim lane with him because I might be tempted to kick him, slow him down a bit.

HA!

He is officially on his own!

My race report. I’d like to throw out that in my heat was…a fast rabbit, a gazelle and two other really fast go getters.

SWIM: I didn’t have much anxiety in the pool. Funny how pool swimming makes me more anxious than open water swimming. I think perhaps because I LOVE nature. I wasn’t any faster than usual. That sort of irritated me. But heck, I have swam 4 times since my Ironman. hahaha, silly lesson on unrealistic expectations.

BIKE: I need stronger legs. Though I can certainly go faster on my bike. Cybex bikes sux.

RUN: Good run. Nice fast pace for me, 8:40 ish. Pain free. No throw up. It’s no fun running all by yourself because everyone else is already done. HA!

BOOM! Next race, getting sub 50 if it kills me.

Personal Growth, Uncategorized, Yoga

Lose yourself or harness your true power

What do you do when life really throws one at you?

We could ….  crumbled to a heap.  Melt.

We could ….  get all mad and angry.

We could …. become cold and empty.

We could ….. Get all high and mighty.

All of these and more.

Those things that we are really attached to can be hard to apply the cliques.   Your child gets really sick.  You get laid off when it’s really bad timing.  You’re husband leaves you for another.  These things can really pack a punch.

Make you breathless.  Make your heart bleed tears.

Can we live the joy as much as we live the pain?
Can we love the pain as much as the joy?

To learn to be close to the intense pain and still be able to breathe is a skill.  To not run and hide, to breathe through it.

To cry out for help, to let that person share your pain, carry your burden for a bit.

To travel through the most intense part, knowing that it ebbs and flows.

To be open to hearing the wisdom when it does ebb.  To see the way forward.

To be brave enough.  Strong enough to go forward.

To know that you are strong enough, good enough to reach peace again.

LIVE OUT LOUD
LIVE FULLY
HAVE A BEAUTIFUL LIFE

…isn’t just about the roses. It’s about the thorns too. We must learn, experience, reach, love, let go, reach for help, listen and breathe.

Athlete, Personal Growth, Yoga

Living my faith and training for a marathon

Heart Health Nugget

Your boss has thrown a curve ball at you. It’s really hit home, just might impact your time with your family, your todo list, your life rhythm. Perhaps you start worrying about it.

Random thoughts clog up your mind. Affect your sleep, day to day concentration, maybe that’s all you talk about with your husband. Maybe you can do something about it, maybe you can’t, maybe you should take action, maybe you should be patient.

Having a clear mind and heart, listening to your internal wisdom is hard to do when we are worrying, obsessing … not living by faith. Which is a muscle we need to develop and strength. Here is a practice that can help develop that strength, so when you really need it, it works well. Automatically.

When those random (or not so random) thoughts of worry travel thought your thoughts, simple turn your internal gaze to:

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  • repeating a short fav scripture. With reverence.
  • focus ALL your attention on three breaths, with each exhale being a bit longer, out your mouth, releasing stress. With reverence.
  • put your hand to your heart and feel your heart beat for 10 seconds. With reverence.
  • gaze at a tree for 10 seconds, seeing the roots that provide a strong foundation. With reverence.

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Practice this with the little things. Build strength of faith. That all will be well, your answers will come as they should. The help you need will be there!

LOVE LOVE LOVE

Personal Growth

Your Rainbow

If you paint with only a couple of colors all the time you miss your rainbow.

I’ve been thinking about this a lot. Mainly due to all the posts and pictures on facebook that talk about…if this person or that thing doesn’t make you feel good, service you…get rid of it. Throw that banana peel out!!!!

I disagree to that blanket statement. Seems so…black and white. It really doesn’t acknowledge that you might be the pain in the arse in the situation. Or that the relationship is “meant to be”. That you are both there to grow and learn. Maybe the relationship should change or evolve, but to just throw it out…You get uncomfortable, you don’t feel good, you’re the pain, they are the pain, you bale, they bale, you take your un-evolving baggage with you and shade your next relationship with the same color.

Not to say that some times IT IS time to move on, let things go. That discernment, to know the difference, is hard. The courage to stay or go is hard too.

Life is shaded with a PLETHRA of experiences to make life VIBRANT.

The last month: my person challenge; to live fully, gain the gifts, let go of whats not meant to stay.

Running a race that I WORKED hard for and rocked out. My dog getting cancer, putting her down, burying her. The family experience of that. Years of hard work paying off and finally having my family reunited. Asking for something and receiving it, on my time table interestingly enough. Sadness of my wonderful mentor moving, acknowledging that its time for me to be more of a big girl. Letting go of a relationship that wasnt nurturing my heart, wanting to make sure that I wasnt baling, that I didnt needed to stick longer. Having a relationship with mentor and friend, where one has discord and the other not. Accepting that my mother is who she is, not baling and not being too attached, but living the relationship fully nontheless, on some terms that I dont quite understand yet, but thats ok. Working through a shoulder injury, the pain, frustration and blah blah blah. Having a ton of fun with my kids. Really loving life, being SUPER DUPER EXCITED! Putting my biz hat back on and building some momentum.

I really didn’t back down from fully living any of these experiences. I tried to not get so attached to one experience, one color, letting that shade the rest. It was tough, but once through it…WHOOOO RAW!

It’s healthy to have relationships of all different kinds. Happy. Business. Strictly formal. Have agreed to disagree. Not getting along. Loving. Discord. We learn from them all. I want to be careful of “oh I don’t align with that person so out they go”.

Perhaps with a bit of patience and understanding. We shine with our strongest colors, but diminish the others. So more of a blue rainbow. Or a pink one.

The world/life/relationship are always changing. This is our playing ground to learn, find ourselves, change ourselves, find things…If we bale, work so hard to make live comfortable…we miss out. We get stagnate. Stale. Gray.

Don’t miss your rainbow. (keep the banana peel, maybe the squirrel will eat it)

Athlete, Personal Growth, Swimming, Yoga

Where do you work through your crap?

Personal growth. Personal Space. (blah blah blah)

10 years ago I was super angry, with a HUGE CHINA sized wall around me. I sure couldn’t share my personal space. I’d beat you out of it in a heart beat. Literally.

Learning how to teach yoga, especially to men, was a HUGE HUGE (HUGE) challenge.

It’s really interesting how little life events intersect. To come together like a couple of chords to make a pleasant sound. Or musical instruments, to play together, to practice…leading to a fine piece of music. It’s like…time stops and…AHHHHH.

That’s what happened to me in the swimming pool during 2012. Apparently, despite the fact that I almost drowned (seriously) when I was little, I am HOME in the water. HOME.

What does that mean. We are all made up of…different constitutes. Type A. MB. Wood/fire. There are a ton of ways to characterize people. They all come down to the same thing. I’ll lean towards the more holistic/yoga definitions. They are cool and interesting. Type A sounds so ANAL and negative. So…my strongest “elements” (Chinese nomenclature) is WATER and WOOD. Wood would be a lot of TYPE A. Water…more artistic. That part of me a lot of you haven’t seen. You can check out my art here…ARTIST.

What’s the point. When I swim…I’m in the environment to really get in touch with myself. Check this out…whether I like to or not. It sort of…does whatever the F it wants. It can be very frustrating. But useful too. Especially if you know whats going on and can work with it. Speeds you along the healing/integration process.

Why am I writing about it now. I’m dealing with something super duper (uber) deep. It’s just about finished and I’m swimming in the pool more.

So…the emotions come up to the surface. In the pool I’m working HARD to correct some of my weaknesses. (maybe that’s why it’s in the pool…I’m pretty comfortable everywhere else).

Lets all chuckle for a moment.

The point is…everyone has a different mix of these “constitute flavors”. So everyone is going to be different…where they find that space. In the Catholic Church. In a forest. On a park bench. Mountain top. Playing music. With family. Meditating. Doing yoga. Running. Praying. Sex.

For me, for right now…it’s swimming.

swimming-at-andover1All this STUFF got stored in my body, my mind, my spirit ( my _____ ).  Some of this stuff has been locked up for many longs years, now working its way to the surface and doggedly expressing the need for release.

So I swim with my goggles filled with tears. Do my best to scale back and relax. Find rhythm. Honor the process, get my body in sync with the water and let the water do its thing.

Here’s the KEY: know when the moment has passed and move on. Leave it in the water. Get out of the pool a little bit different. With new space.

I hope you find where your space it at. That space that rings true for you. Like a beautiful heart stopping chord.

Personal Growth

The plant needs water

I have this plant. From this person that at one point in my life was a very bright part of my life. Now…not so much. One of those relationships that sort of crashed and burned. And to be honest about it, still got space in my heart for that person.  With a lot of other stuff too.

It’s interesting how relationships are long. Are short. Are painful. Are joy filled. We get attached to the “feel good” ones. The ones that nurture us in our comfort zones. That give us mainly loving acceptance and don’t push us. Those are just one type of relationship. Equally important. The flip side. The relationships with people that drive us crazy. Countless types of relationships. All equally important. All needed.

Blah blah blah. Life is constant change. We are just learning how to dance with the changes. Hopefully it becomes a graceful dance.

So this plant…I’ve had it for a couple years now. It hasn’t grown much because I haven’t taken care of it. It’s one of those plants that will grow like wildfire if you give it bare minimum. And…

I’M A PLANT PERSON. I hate it when plants die, it hurts my heart to throw a 1/2 dead plant away. Like there is a 1/2 alive animal (or person) in the trash. That’s how I role. Way sappy.

You know…within this plant is potential. Waiting to bloom and expand into something else. Waiting on me to donate some water. It really doesn’t care about all my garbage that I’m carrying around…it just wishes I’d stop withholding water.

So…it’s been hanging in there. Holding on, getting a bit taller despite my silliness.

IMG_3252For all these years, underneath it all, I have made the act of “watering” this plant about the relationship.  My feelings for how it went.  Again blah blah blah.

The act of “watering” this plant doesn’t mean that I was wrong, or that I was right. Or that I’m better or worse. That I’m giving in or up or whatever. Has absolutely nothing to do with that. In yoga we talk about non-attachment. This is what we are talking about. I’m attaching so much to this plant because it just happens that person x gave it to me. Big whoopie now. It’s a pretty plant. All by itself.

The plant is waiting on me. Wanting to grow. Brighten up my room a bit more.

Personal Growth, Yoga

Daily $1,000,00 deposits

I met a new friend the other day at the Y. His name is Jerry. It’s amazing how much of an impact such a short relationship had on my soul.

Here’s what he had to say.

“We all want to be happy. We all want to be healthy. At least in the world I live in.” I’m thinking. Dude, this turtle has got some insights. I’m gonna listen.

“Being healthy and happy isn’t just about your waist line. Your race pace. Your hair. The car you drive. The job you have.”  I’m like…”yeah yeah, this sounds good because all those expectations kind of stress me out.”

“You human beings are complex, and being healthy is a multidimensional thing. Chew on that a while.” I said “okie dokie”.

Cole-carrying-turtleSo I got to thinking…an acquaintance of mine tends to say things like “I traumatize my body with all this training” and what not. Which has always irritated me. I wondered why…and have gotten to this thought with the nudge of Jerry. Being healthy is about physical, emotional, spiritual, intellectual. A combination. I read an article that being physically healthy is a small part of being HEATHLY. That emotionally being healthy has a bigger impact. So while I am physically stressing my body (which sometimes stress is a good thing, that’s how we grow and move forward), I’m making myself very happy. I feel good when I train. I love the people I am around. I enjoy myself 100%. Which I totally think outweighs the physical stress.

This article said that our emotional/spiritual well being has a BIG impact on our HEALTH. It’s the daily things that we do.  The deposits we make into our health account.

You don’t have to train for a big race to make these $1,000,00 deposits into your health account. Lots of equally awesome things to do, just depends on what lights your heart up.

Massage. Meditating. Yoga. Praying. Girls Night Out. Couples Night Alone. Ice cream with the kids. Serving others. Walking your neighbors dog when they are sick. Going to church. Brushing your girl friends hair. Being ok with onions thrown at you if you deserve it…

Or…meeting a friend Jerry at the North YMCA and giving him a ride home.

turtle-going-to-water

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