And if they do ….. are you not setting them, working on them, due to that FEAR?
And what exactly are we FEARING?
For me, working on race-related goals is about working through the personal growth needed to achieve said goals. I’ve been working on the goals in the pic for some time now. The things getting in my way really aren’t physcial in nature. Yes, my run form could stand improvement. But for the run…I just need more mental toughness to stop STOPPING. Another thing that gets in my way is not sleeping well, because, to be honest, some of my lifestyle habits are not optimal at this point.
SO. This dream board is SHOUTING AT ME to get my stuff together. Do what I need to do and stick with it. BE CONSISTENT.
I posted the dream board on Facebook as a shout out to everyone. ACCOUNTABILITY. And to ask for some good JUJU sent my way. I will be super honest with you though. I was FEARFUL of putting it out there.
I have FEARS about what others think about my dreams, about maybe not meeting those goals and then what others will think of me…
Yes, as a health coach, I’m about…95% confident and really don’t give a hoot about what others think. But when I get right down to it, when it’s my inner most desires…that FEAR comes up a bit.
I just it’s more about JUDGEMENT. My opinion is we live in a very “judgy” society. So…I’m a little slow, so my dreams of hitting 3:15 on the bike…might seem super easy for some. Me…not so much. So that liar voice says…”people are gonna think you are weak”.
And what about if I don’t meet those goals. Again, 95% of me really doesn’t care. 95% of me is COMPLETELY CONFIDENT IN MY BAD ASS SELF. But there is still that little liar voice that says, people are gonna judge your slow A goals (because your weak) and just think your a big fat wuss because you didn’t meet that slow A goal. hahahaha. Ok. So thats me being completely honest with myself. And with you.
Do you have that little liar voice that vomits BS into your being?
I’ve been working with a lot of athletes lately, as a WHOLEISTIC coach. And sometimes we start by working on things a little different. DREAM BOARD / VISION BOARD Time.
This stuff is MAGIC. It helps you to stay focused. It helps you to set goals and dreams that YOU want. That mean something to YOU. It gives power to the skill of holding true to the non-negotiables. Gives you strength when you want to quit.
DO THIS!
- Connect in with YOU
- Not the “mom-you”, “athlete-you”, “worker-you”, “spouse-you”. YOU YOU YOU. That inner part of you that is SUPER FREAKING ROCKSTAR AWESOME and is maybe covered a bit by BS and busy and stress and…Do this by FOCUSING on what really makes you happy. Write a list of 50 things that LIGHT YOU UP!
- Set you a GOAL that aligns with YOU
- With your 50 LIGHT ME UP things. Don’t let fears get in the way. Say “what the hell, I’m going for it!”. Think about what you would tell that person you really love about reaching for their own goals. And say that to yourself.
- PENCIL it!
- Get posterboard from Walmart or a sheet of paper. Or write it on your car window. Put it out there. BIG BOLD and BEAUTIFUL! If this seems fearful to you, remember, that little liar voice is less strong then the rest of you. It might appear to be louder, but thats a lie too!
- SHARE IT!!!
- Put it out there! Show people your goals and dreams. Hold yourself accountable. Let others SUPPORT YOU!
It doesn’t matter if this is race related. Or not. Whatever is in front of you, that you are ready to chew on! DREAM BOARD IT!
